Sexual problems can cause substantial stress and disappointment.
But getting help can make sex an enjoyable and satisfying part of your life.
If you have difficulties related to sex and sexuality, you’re not alone. I understand how these types of problems can have an immense negative impact on your quality of life, including your relationships, your mental health, and the way that you see yourself.
Because problems related to sex and sexuality are often stigmatized and misunderstood, many people suffer in silence for fear of judgment, embarrassment, shame, and rejection. But these types of problems can be overcome. There is extensive research and clinical evidence showing that treatment can make things much better.
Do you experience any of the following sexual difficulties or problems?
problem sexual behaviours (known commonly as sex addiction and porn addiction)
sexual interests that cause you difficulties (kinks, fetishes, paraphilias)
anxiety and fears about relationships or sex
sexual obsessions and/or compulsions (sexual OCD)
sexual guilt, shame, and anxiety
erection difficulties (erectile dysfunction)
decreased interest in sex (low libido)
difficulties with desire, arousal, and orgasm
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Frequently Asked Questions
What is therapy?
Therapy can mean many things. The type of therapy that I do is psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is psychology-based treatment to help people overcome their problems in an effective and lasting way. Therapy helps people change the way that they think, feel, and behave. Many sexual problems are the result of psychological problems, which is why psyhchotherapy can be so effective for addressing sexual problems. There are many different types of psychotherapy. I practice cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), mindfulness-based cogntive therapy, and acceptance and commitment therapy. They are the best scientifically-supported types of psychotherapy available.
What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy is counselling or psychotherapy with a focus on sexual and relationship problems. The goal of sex therapy is to help people solve their sexual problems and have the sex lives that they want. Sex therapists come from many different backgrounds with widely varying levels of training and expertise. Because of this, they may approach their work quite differently. Sex therapists aren't regulated by a licensing organization, so it's a good idea to check out therapists' credentials.
Do you see people with non-sexual problems like anxiety and depression?
Yes, absolutely. I enjoy helping people with diverse problems including those of a sexual nature, and those that have nothing to do with sex. My education, training, and expertise make this possible. Clinical psychology training means having a strong foundation in treating anxiety, mood, unhelpful behaviours, and other non-sexual psychological problems. Difficulties related to sex and sexual disorders are my area of specialization. And because sexual problems often have a significant anxiety component, having a foundation in treating anxiety is crucial. Some of the other problems that I see in my practice are:
- depression or low mood
- obsessions and compulsions (OCD)
- emotions that feel too intense or overwhelming
- behaviour that causes you problems but seems impossible to stop
What if I'm feeling unsure about getting help?
It's completely normal to feel unsure about starting therapy. Here are some common reasons:
- People often feel uncomfortable with the idea of sharing private and upsetting things about themselves. Sex, in particular, is difficult to talk about for most people. But talking with a professional is often exactly what's needed. Being non-judgmental and respectful are central to the work that I do.
- Some people fear that sharing their problems will confirm their fears that they're weak, broken, or incompetent. But most of us don't feel bad about ourselves when we get help with our physical health, education, careers, fitness, etc. Sometimes we need the help of professionals. The same can be said about getting help for our psychological and sexual problems.
- Affordability can be an issue for people without coverage, or coverage that's capped at a certain amount. But how much are stress, loneliness, sleepless nights, or messed up relationships costing you? How much would it worth to you to be able to start living the life you want? Having the sex life that you want?
How long do I need to be in therapy?
On average, most clients find that they need at least eight sessions to experience significant and lasting change. However, they usually start to see improvements in as little as two sessions. In rare cases, a client may simply need a question or two answered, in which case a single session may suffice. On the other hand, some people are struggling with complex problems that may require long-term help and support.
What are the differences among psychologists, psychiatrists, counsellors, and therapists?
Psychologists have doctorate degrees (PhDs) in psychology and have completed extensive training in clinical psychology. I am a registered psychologist. Psychiatrists are doctors of medicine (MDs), which means that they've completed medical school plus additional training in psychiatry. Psychiatrists can prescribe drugs. Both psychologists and psychiatrists must have licences to practice. In other words, they must meet strict educational and training requirements, and are regulated by law. Counsellors and therapists come from diverse backgrounds in terms of their education and training. Most have been through counselling educational programs while some have not. Counsellors and therapists are not regulated by law. However, in British Columbia most counsellors are part of an organization that requires a minimum of a Masters degree in counselling plus training in counselling.
Who are the people that you work with?
I work with adults of all ages, genders, orientations, backgrounds, and identities.
Specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness, and Sex Therapy
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Alternatively, you can call me at 778-233-5449. I'd be happy to chat with you on the phone.